Capítulo 9. Encarando a la Muerte

Es un capítulo intrigante eso de encarar a la Parca... Y si embargo es algo totalmente natural ya que todo principio tiene un fin que justifica el principio, cual eterno trabajo de Sísifo. Salvo aquello que no tiene principio ni final, la cosa de morir intranquiliza bastante. Veamos qué cuentan los newtonianos, aprovechando la ocasión para subir, también, un hermoso canto católico de esperanza en la luz eterna.

CAPÍTULO 9. ENCARANDO LA MUERTE

"La muerte no es el final" letra de Cesáreo Gabaráin Azurmendi (1936-1991)

Facing Death

For what is it to die, but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun? And when the Earth shall claim your limbs, then you shall truly dance. KAHLIL GIBRAN

We all die, whether we want to or not. The idea of dying can be challenging, even for those who believe that we survive the death of the physical body.

While in a physical body, we naturally focus on material things—our safety, our pursuits, our possessions, our interactions with others, the beauty of our world and its challenges. When we die, the world we knew is gone. The people we cherished are out of reach. If we are not prepared, death is a shock.

Some people never face the fact that they and their loved ones will die. I have counselled people overwrought by the death of a greatly loved, elderly pet. They had never considered this day would come. I wondered why they were so unprepared. I eventually worked it out. They hated loss and were not good at letting go. The thought of losing a pet was so traumatic, they never thought about it. Pushing away the thought was easier than being prepared. Of course, the day of loss came anyway, and their lack of preparation meant that it hit them extremely hard.

This lack of preparedness does not apply just to the loss of pets. Many people avoid thinking about their own death or the death of their loved ones. When they are faced with a profound loss, these are the people who say, ‘I never thought this would happen to me.’ Previously, when someone they knew died, they had managed to distance themselves from their emotions. Now they cannot. The loss is too great.

Facing death takes courage. Some people have the fortitude to face death well before the grim reaper knocks on their door. This is wise. Although one can never be fully prepared, much of the fear of death can be resolved beforehand.

People who undertake past life or life between lives regressions often lose their fear of death. This happens for two reasons. First, they experience dying in their past lives. Second, they discover where they go after death.

Paula, whose past lives are described in the chapter, Not Cleopatra, did not have any expectations from her session. She was just curious. But she did get something she never anticipated.

And the other thing I got that surprised me was a sense that, when I die in this lifetime, there is nothing much to fear. My energy was really positive and swirling and dancing up above, just after both lifetimes, just after dying. Death is easy if you let go gently.

Sinda

Sinda claimed she was not afraid of death but she was afraid of being at home alone at night. She had always wanted to visit the other side and now she had the opportunity. A relative gifted her a past life regression and a life between lives regression.

Before we proceed into the past life, Sinda says she has a sore stomach. Sinda regresses easily, staying one step ahead of me in my role as hypnotherapist. Her first past life soon reveals the reason for her stomach pains.

It is night-time and I am inside. It is cold and dark. I can see out of the windows. There are pink spots like eyes moving. Now it is getting lighter. There is a light near my face. I can see green trees.

I don’t think I am alive. I don’t think I have a body. I see a big eye again looking at me. I feel very little. My stomach hurts.

They’re stabbing swords into my stomach. I am lying on a table in an old castle. My mother is standing at the end of the table. As terrible as it is, I am not going to cry. I will not give them the satisfaction.

But now Sinda does cry, and takes some deep slow breaths. It takes a few minutes for her to release the pain in her stomach and the emotions associated with the horror of it all. Now she receives more information about this life.

My name is María and I am dressed all in white. This is a time after the Romans, in England. The castle is by the sea in the south of England.

I was naughty. I am the King’s daughter and I fell pregnant to a man who is good to me but he is not acceptable to my mother. He was the gardener. We loved each other. The King’s men came dressed in armour to kill me.

My father ordered my death because my mother wanted me killed. They wanted to show that poor guy not to mess with the King. I am above his station. They hanged him.

My mother in my current life was also María’s mother.

This issue about class difference has carried into my current life. My mother never approved of my two partners. She never thought they were good enough for me. She has never let go of being the queen, even in her current life. My dad and his sister call her Queen Ana. Ana is her name. She carries on so much that my partner mockingly calls my family ‘blue bloods’.

My father then is a different soul to my father now. María’s father killed a lot of people to get the land so others wouldn’t take them over.

Sinda’s guide is with her and we ask about the purpose of her life as María.

I was trying to set a precedent. I wanted to show that poor people can mix with the rich. I was a fighter. I was trying to stand up for myself, and others. I did what I thought was right for everybody, not just me.

(In a later regression, we discover María was a wilful soul, who was out of alignment with the era in which she lived. The guides explain that there is a time for change and a time to accept the circumstances of life. When you are open and connected to your higher self, you know which direction to take.)

Before Sinda transitions into another past life she says, ‘I don’t know why I try to punish myself.’ Again she is foreseeing the next step, as we discover.

Something is not right. I am being punished again.

I see tangled vines circled around me. I am in white, a Victorian dress to just below the knees with long sleeves and hemmed with lace. I am a ten-year-old girl called Sara and I am crying.

I have run away and I am lost. My eye is hurting because I have been hit by my twelve-year-old brother. He hit me after I yelled at one of our servants, an old lady who is actually quite kind.

I am the daughter of the family who lives in a big, old stone house near the sea in England. I ran away because I knew I would be in trouble for being rude to the servant.

I can see the family all dressed up, the men with top hats. They are leaving in carriages to go to a funeral. I wanted to go too but I wasn’t allowed. I was angry and I took it out on the old lady who stayed home to look after my brother and me. It is my grandmother’s funeral. I wanted to go and say goodbye. I am upset because I loved my grandmother. That’s why I ran away.

No one comes to get me because they can’t find me. It is so dark and scary, I am afraid to leave. I don’t know how to get home so I stay there and just cry.

Men in uniforms find me in the morning, the police I think. I can’t stop crying.

They take me home and everyone is cross with me for being so silly. I think I gave my mother a nervous breakdown but my father is nice. My brother is nasty, laughing at me and calling me a spoilt brat.

No one is interested in why I did it. They don’t understand, thinking I was just being naughty. Not being able to say goodbye to my grandmother has clung to me.

My brother is listening to me now, saying different people show their sadness in different ways. That feels nice.

We move to another scene in Sinda’s life as Sara.

Now I am fourteen and we are leaving England on a big boat bound for Australia. Father has a high role on the ship but he is not the captain. We [his family] are allowed to go along. There is a tutor on board for us and the other children. We will be returning to England, but the other passengers will be staying in Australia.

We arrive in Darwin. The ship moors in the ocean and we come ashore in a small boat. As we get off, we have to watch for crocodiles. Some people will be settling here, mostly government workers and their families. There is not much to see, just a few old timber houses and some Chinese and Aboriginal people. There are not many white folk but we visit a few. They are all really scared of the Aboriginal people.

We move to another scene, discovering that Sara and her family continued on to Cairns.

I am fifteen now and I am with another family travelling out into the bush. I am happy because it is an adventure. I have been allowed to stay with this family as a nanny to their children.

The previous nanny was their grandmother and she died. I felt sorry for the children losing their grandmother. I know how that feels, and wanted to look after them. The father is a government officer and we are going to the gold fields. It is scary, all bush and no roads. We have to find a way through.

We arrive at the goldfields and live in a timber house. Someone who hates the government sets it alight. It burns down and we all die. I am only sixteen.

I die peacefully. It was quick.

My parents are in Sydney and they just found out that I have died. They are sorry I went with that group. Mother is shouting at father. She is saying he shouldn’t have let me go. I want to interrupt her. I want to tell her that I’m fine because I’ve been reunited with my grandmother. Somehow, I cut through her suffering. I see her face relax. She apologises to my father. They’re still sad but they feel more at peace.

They decide to settle in Sydney. I think they are my maternal grandmother’s family in my current life.

Sinda now reflects on the deaths she has just experienced in these two past lives.

This death is strange. It seems awful to be burnt to death but it wasn’t. Sara’s death was so different to the death of María. María was fighting death. Sara didn’t know she was dying. She fell asleep and died. Then her grandmother was there and it was fine. Sara missed her grandmother so much she didn’t mind dying.

Sinda’s two deaths are worth examining. Both were horrible ways for a sixteen-year-old to die, but there is one major difference. María’s death involved her parents. The very people who are supposed to protect her had ordered her to die. As a result, María never accepted her death. She remained stoic, refusing to cry out, angry at the injustice she perceived. María clung tightly to those emotions as she died.

Sara, on the other hand, did not resist her death. She missed her grandmother, who was there to meet her when she died. She was fully resolved at the time of her death. In fact, she made some effort to reassure her parents that she was fine before she left the Earth’s sphere.

Before her session, Sinda had told me that she was afraid of being alone at night, especially when all the lights were off. I decide I will test Sinda now and see if resolving María’s death has reduced her fear of the dark. I ask Sinda to imagine being in her house alone when it is dark.

It is dark and scary. I can hear conversations. People are talking. They are outside. Oh. They’re spirits. Actually, they are the spirits of Indigenous people. They are restless. You know, Murdering Creek is just near us, at the back of our house.

Murdering Creek got its name from a massacre that took place there about 150 years ago. A white man dressed as a swagman enticed the local Gubbi Gubbi people out of their lakeside camp to follow him along the lake and up the creek. Seven white men were lying in wait, holding their rifles. When their victims came within range, the whites opened fire. They fired again on those who fled. No one knows how many were killed. Unfortunately, this was not the only massacre of Indigenous people around these parts of the Sunshine Coast at that time.

I encourage Sinda to send out a beam of light and love from her heart to these Indigenous spirits. I suggest she continue doing this until she knows she has their attention.

They are crying. I am sending light and love to them. They are aware of me now. I can read their minds and they are wondering if they can take their possums with them?

I tell Sinda to send them the message that they can take their possums. She should also ask them to look for the elders who can guide them. I suggest she watch what happens next.

They were lost. They took the possums with them for food. They are going up into a golden light. Gosh, there are a lot of them. Hundreds... They are gone now.

I contact Sinda six weeks after her session to see how she is going. She reports that she is much less fearful and no longer afraid of the dark. Funny thing, she cannot remember the lost Indigenous souls and their possums. In fact, she has little memory of anything that happened in the session. Our conversation takes place just a couple of days after Christmas. She has guests and it is the holidays. No doubt she has more practical things on her mind.

I speak with Sinda again a month after Christmas. By now she has taken the time to listen to the recording of her session. Being home alone at night no longer frightens her. She also remarks that the possums that had made such a terrible nuisance of themselves around her house have gone, never to return. She says she hadn't connected all those dots until she listened to the recording of her regression.

Norina

Norina was another person who had a fear of being alone at night. She came to see me because of her anxiety. Many situations bothered her but being alone at night was looming as a major problem. Norina’s husband had been promoted and needed to attend a meeting interstate. For the first time in her twenty-four years, Norina was going to be alone for several nights.

After making sure Norina feels safe and secure, I regress her back to a time when she was home alone. I ask her to access her fears.

I am in the house and I feel afraid. Are all the doors locked? Can anyone get in? I am afraid someone might break in and hurt me. I cannot relax. I am walking up and down the hall checking everything. I hear sounds. Oh! It is just the neighbours putting out the rubbish. I am so jumpy any noise worries me.

I know that the best way to transcend fear is to confront it. This situation of being alone has triggered Norina’s underlying fears. Now that the fear has surfaced, she has the opportunity to put it to rest.

Her greatest fear is that she would die. She bravely says she wants to confront this fear and release it.

Norina believes in past lives so it is easy to remind her that she cannot die, not permanently anyway. Reassurance settles her a little. However, believing you never really die is not the same as knowing you survive death.

Norina still feels anxious. I ask what she fears might happen. She says she is afraid someone will come in and murder her. I suggest we press pause for a moment so she can process what she is experiencing.

A man has broken in. He rapes me and now he has his hands around my neck. He is strangling me and I cannot stop him. I am struggling. I don’t want to die. I am too young to die.

I agree by telling Norina that our physical bodies do die, and when that happens our life, as we knew it, is over. She is angry. She doesn’t think it is fair to have to die so young.

I encourage Norina to feel her anger and disappointment, suggesting she go with any emotions that emerge.

When she is calm, I suggest we move forward again. She needs to accept death and let go. I keep reassuring her as she moves through the grief of her life’s end.

I don’t know if I can let go. I don’t want my life to end. I had many things I wanted to do. I don’t know where I am going. I am afraid. I am letting go now. I can see my body. It doesn’t seem right that we have to die. That is a horrible way to die. [Norina weeps.] I am letting go. Moving now...faster. I am being pulled backwards, upwards through a tunnel. The earth is far away. I can see a light up ahead and I am being pulled towards it. Now I am floating through crystal raindrops. So beautiful. I can feel the light. It is all around me, so warm and loving.

Tears roll down Norina’s cheeks. I suggest she stays awhile in this place that feels so warm and safe.

Norina smiles. She tells me that she feels at peace. She is not alone, and feels surrounded by love. I ask her if she remembers how she reached this peaceful place.

She tells me that she travelled through a tunnel.

I ask her what happened before she went through the tunnel. Her voice fills with wonder.

I died! I was scared in the house and someone came in. They strangled me. Ohhh. That is so strange. Once I let go I went into that beautiful place of peace. I remember the crystal raindrops and the love. There is so much love.

When Norina meets her guide, she wants to know why we have to live and then die.

He is telling me it is our own choice to come into a life. He says we choose our death, too. That seems strange. I am asking him why I would choose to die like that. It is to balance. To understand. We have to experience both. What we do in one life to others we have to experience too. Then we know and that is how we heal. He says we do not need to be afraid of death. All the pain melts away. In the end we are all loved and accepted.

A smile forms on Norina’s face. When I bring her out of the trance, we talk for a few minutes before I ask her to close her eyes and imagine she is back in her house alone.

‘How do you feel?’ I ask her.

‘Much better,’ she replies.

‘Is there anything to be afraid of ?’

‘No. It is quiet and really peaceful’. She opens her eyes and starts laughing.

There is no reason to be afraid. Wow! All that worry I had and there is nothing to really be afraid of. I can remember that feeling of love, so warm and...comforting. Knowing what is waiting, it is hard to be afraid of death.

Conclusion

When someone dies unprepared or traumatically, the emotion associated with death might remain unresolved. I base this view on the hundreds of clients I have regressed, who have metaphorically ‘died’ as part of the experience. During their session, they release any emotional trauma or shock associated with the death. I have observed that their anxiety, fear or stress is nearly always relieved, never to return.

Some popular movies such as Ghost and The Sixth Sense have explored the theme of earthbound souls. In Ghost, the soul is focused on resolving his sudden death. In The Sixth Sense, the psychologist does not know he is dead.

Although these movies are dramatised to entertain their audience, they show how souls could be trapped in the Earth system. The energy that is trapped is not complete and the soul’s focus is very limited. In The Sixth Sense, the young psychic schoolboy says that these dead people ‘only see what they want to see’. My experience tells me that this description is apt. Sinda, as María, did not have a peaceful death. She was horrified at being murdered on the instructions of her parents. At the moment of death, she was focused on the negativity of this experience. Such focus, I believe, traps the negative emotion that can reverberate in future lives. Perhaps Sinda was guided to access this past life in order to release this negative emotional energy.

One of the benefits of regressing to our past lives and life between lives is the opportunity to release unneeded emotional energies, whether these energies are from a disturbing past life or a traumatic death.

A number of professionals have investigated the phenomenon of lost souls. In his book, Thirty Years Among the Dead, Dr. Carl Wickland describes how he rescued hundreds of dead people with the help of his psychic wife. Dr. William Baldwin, in his book, Spirit Releasement Therapy, considers the predicament of earthbound souls and outlines techniques for releasing them. Dr. Edith Fiore (The Unquiet Dead) and Dr. Louise Ireland-Frey (Freeing the Captives) also claim to have released many lost souls.

Many religions, traditional and primitive, have prayers and rituals to release the spirits of the dead. Perhaps we should not ignore the importance of a peaceful death.

How can we ensure we have a peaceful death, no matter what the circumstances? Prepare. Attaining an attitude of acceptance is the best preparation. When death looms, even unexpectedly, it only takes a split-second to release and let go.

A regression can be a positive experience for those who fear death. It is difficult to retain this fear if you have experienced death, even if it took place in a trance. Dying, and then finding blissful peace, is a powerful accomplishment. Something deep inside us changes. I know I no longer feel afraid of dying. Instead, I imagine dying with a sense of peaceful acceptance. When the reaper arrives, surrender now seems easy. Many others, who have visited a past life or their life between lives, express similar sentiments.

Capítulo 10. El propósito de mi vida

 

My Life’s Purpose

You Can’t Always Get What You Want

LIFE, ACCORDING TO THE ROLLING STONES

Most people would like to know what they are meant to be doing with their lives. During my twenty years of counselling, I have noticed that people are unsettled and unhappy if they sense they are not fulfilling their life’s purpose.

A visit to their life between lives gives people the opportunity to discover their life’s purpose. During their session, they receive much more than just information. Usually they relive a primary past life in their first session, and a secondary past life during the life between lives session. All these experiences, as well as the challenges they face in their current lives, provide fodder for examination. Their guides and the Council of Elders help them understand, first hand, the themes that are playing out in their lives. People come to see that the challenges, the events and the people in their current lives are there for a reason. As one client put it, ‘I felt I had been given the missing piece of the puzzle about why I behaved the way I did, and why I was who I was.’

When I conduct these sessions, I make only one firm promise: you will get what you need. Occasionally someone who expected to experience a past life does not. They go the trance but other issues come up that need to be addressed. Even though their expectations were not fulfilled, they leave happy. Their guides know exactly what they need. Their guides have brought them to my consulting room for a reason. That reason unfolds, and, by the time the session is over, the client has gained some valuable insights to take away.

Most people think that their life’s purpose is a job or a specific career. This is rarely the case. As you will see in the following stories, our purpose is more about refining the quality of our consciousness than the type of work we do. The physical skills we develop during our life die with the body, because the body is the vehicle for these skills. Our guides have described these physical abilities as ‘tools’. Fortunately, spiritual lessons do seem to carry over from life to life. These lessons are essential to our ongoing spiritual evolution.

Many of my clients have been the victims of violence in their past lives. Others have acted violently themselves. They usually find these memories challenging. To help them make sense of these experiences, I often ask them, ‘Do you now have any desire to kill another human?’ They never do, of course. Then I ask, ‘Did you have that desire earlier in your life, before learning better?’

They answer, ‘No. I have always felt that way. I have never wanted to hurt anyone.’

Then I ask, ‘So where did that knowing come from? Others in our world have the desire to kill. You don’t. And most likely you couldn’t, even to save yourself.’ They cannot answer. They don’t know how they developed such a distaste for violence.

I suspect they lost any desire to kill others through the experience of many lifetimes, lifetimes where they were killed and lifetimes where they killed. Once they have experienced both sides of the coin, so to speak, the desire to kill melts away. They know how it feels to be a victim and don’t want to inflict that on another.

This entropy of the killing instinct is, in my view, a change in consciousness that stays with us, once it is fully integrated into our psyche or soul. We improve the quality of our consciousness through many experiences that are eventually integrated. What we experience during the life between lives session, is a shift in our understanding. As we reflect on that experience it is integrated into our consciousness. Once we understand our journey, we know our next step.

Blanca

Blanca, who is in her early sixties, came to see me after reading Michael Newton’s books. She kept herself busy helping others, and was keen to make a difference in people’s lives. Even so, she wondered if she was fulfilling her life’s purpose. She had read about unconditional love and wanted to know how it felt to be loved unconditionally. She also hoped, during her life between lives session, that she would discover the lessons she was meant to learn in her current life. In total, Blanca had fifteen questions for the Council of Elders. I confidently told her that clients always had their questions answered.

On the way to the life between lives realm I always regress the client to a past life. As I guide Blanca back towards a past life, she encounters nothing but darkness. She seems stuck. We soon discover the reason for this difficulty.

Blanca is lying on the floor of a hut. The night is moonless and inside it is pitch black. She is holding her breath, and feels her heart beating against her ribcage.

Blanca is a married woman in her mid-twenties. She lives a simple life with her husband in a rudimentary village. The huts in this community are made mostly of bark and have earthen floors. The clothes they all wear are made of rough fabric in dull brown colours. They all work the fields. The weather is cool, probably autumn, and the place is England nearly a thousand years ago.

Blanca is lying up against a wall of the hut. In the darkness she starts feeling anxious.

I am waiting or listening for something. There are horsemen coming. Now they are here. They are riding through the village destroying everything. They are burning the huts and killing people with swords. I am trying to be small and hide in the dark. But they break into the house and cut me up. Slice me. I don’t feel any pain.

It becomes apparent that Blanca does not know she has died.

She is still hiding. She feels no pain because she has gone numb.

I ask her if she needs to hide anymore.

She shakes her head.

I ask if hiding kept her safe.

No. The soldiers are determined. They want to clear out all the scum.

I hear a quiver in her voice. I ask if she still needs to hide from the soldiers.

No. Now I can look down and see. It is a bloody mess. Dirt and blood. I see my body. Going up further I see there are bodies everywhere. The soldiers are gone.

Life just goes so quickly. Luckily we have several lives.

Life isn’t respected. It is such waste. A life cut short so quickly, so suddenly.

I am floating. There are clouds. Still floating. Just resting. I don’t have to be afraid anymore. It is very nice. I am just floating in the clouds.

I ask if she wants to go home. Blanca starts crying quietly. ‘Can I really go home?’ she pleads. She needs ten minutes to recover. It seems she has felt lost for a long time.

She says she has moved upwards a little but once again she seems to be stuck.

I see a light but it is not clear. I am feeling quite peaceful but there is a block in my head. It needs to be removed. I can’t function with it there. It is like a locked vault and I haven’t got access to who I really am. It is all locked up.

Blanca complains that her head hurts as I gently probe to discover the nature of the block. It emerges that Blanca is disturbed because her life as the slaughtered peasant woman didn’t seem to have any purpose. Her guides come in. Blanca describes them as ‘a presence. ’ They help her gain a deeper understanding.

A life doesn’t always have to have a purpose. I have to have certain experiences. The experience itself is enough. I don’t always have to do stuff. It is enough just to be, to experience life without always striving. That life was important because it gave me the opportunity to experience humility. I have a tendency to want to do great things. I need to do ordinary things as well. It doesn’t hurt to have a few messy deaths.

I need to learn to be patient. I always want to go somewhere. I am unique and it is enough just to be myself. I have read about this place [life between lives] where people can go. So I have expectations that might not be met. I have to let go of what I have read and just allow my own journey to unfold.

I have a feeling of excitement. An aliveness. There is something about appreciating that feeling. I don’t have to do anything with it. It is a sense of being more alive. I just have to be it and radiate it. I am to relax and do whatever I feel like doing. I am supposed to enjoy my life.

All the bossy people in my life have an idea of how I should be, but I don’t have to be what they expect.

I remind Blanca of her questions. Her guides give her more information.

The questions will be answered in good time. There is no point in talking about it. That is all in the head. Being in the head takes away the feeling. I need to focus my attention on my heart, body and feelings, rather than my thoughts and head.

I am asking where these needs came from my need to prove myself by doing something worthy and my need to be approved of by significant others. ‘Lighten up,’ they said. ‘Don’t be so serious.’ It is part of my soul nature to be serious and focused on doing things. It has been good and helped me develop but now it is getting in the way. If I want to expand I have to lighten up and realize that life is not that serious.

There is more to life than achieving. Being light and having fun is an important part of life. It is not supposed to be all work and no play.

I am being told that this is my life lesson. I am to appreciate life and lighten up. I need to let go of all expectations of others. No more mulling over things and judging. Instead, I need to be in a state of allowing. But most importantly, I am to live life with this feeling of aliveness. If I keep returning to this feeling and live it, then I am radiating unconditional love. Everything else is irrelevant. Nothing else is necessary.

I am surprised by these responses to her questions. I am used to having all my clients’ questions answered, but I can see that asking the questions will pull her out of her feeling of aliveness, and back into thinking. I ask what we are to do with all her questions.

They [Blanca’s guides] chuckle. Now is not the right time for questions. They don’t want me back in my head. The most important thing for me right now is this feeling, this feeling of being connected and alive. All that other stuff is a distraction and I don’t need to bother with it. It takes me out of really being in life and experiencing life.

I am being told to trust that the information will come when I need it. I always needed to know stuff and I would go searching for it. I collected information like a hoarder in case I needed it same day. I fill my head up with stuff I don’t need. I don’t need it until I need it and when I do need it, it will be there. It is about being present and not going off in my head thinking or worrying. It is as simple as that and as difficult as that.

Blanca spent another hour staying quietly connected to this powerful feeling that she described as ‘aliveness’. In some traditions, such as Buddhism, this might be described as ‘not doing’. Her fifteen questions remained unanswered, although she was confident that she would receive answers at an appropriate time. Her purpose and her life lessons, however, were very clear. She knew exactly what she was to do. She was to connect to this sense of aliveness as often as possible.

Jorge

Jorge had been spiritually minded for the last twenty years. He was a gentle man and deeply distressed. In the last six months, he had been on an emotional roller coaster ride. He’d left an unhappy marriage of thirty years after finding the love of his life. With his beloved, he soared with feelings of joy and fulfilment. Then, when she went back to her abusive husband, he plummeted into despair and depression.

He’d thought he was destined to rescue his new love, Ayalga, from her unhappy marriage. Now that she was gone, he felt there was no purpose to his life. He was in his late fifties, well-off, and finished with his architectural career. Not long before he met Ayalga, he had taken up natural medicine. Until recently, he had loved it, but now it gave him no joy. Wherever he looked, he saw only emptiness. For the first time in his life, he found himself seriously considering suicide.

Jorge had spent his life always doing what he thought was right. He was kind and thoughtful. Even the woman he left, his ex-wife, remained a friend. He couldn’t understand why he now had to suffer so deeply.

He had felt so close to Ayalga, Jorge thought they must share a soul connection. He deeply felt they were meant to be together. He wanted to know why the relationship hadn’t worked out, and what he could do about it. He wondered if he had done something dreadful in a previous life. Could his present suffering be karmic punishment?

Jorge did a past life regression and a life between lives regression. That meant we had the experience of two past lives and his present life to draw upon when making sense of his recent experiences. Both Ayalga and her husband made an appearance in both of those past lives.

In the first past life, they form a different relationship triangle. Jorge’s soul had incarnated as a young woman named Delina. Ayalga was Delina’s mother, and Ayalga’s present-day husband was Delina’s stepfather.

I am wearing a dress that goes down to my ankles and clogs that are made out of wood. My hair is long and brown. I am happily shopping for bread in a village. It seems I routinely do the shopping as I am an only child. I am fifteen years old. The streets are cobblestone and the day is cool and cloudy. We live nearby. I am getting the feeling that something is going to happen. I don’t like it. It is something disturbing.

I reassure Delina and suggest she be brave. She continues.

Someone grabs me. I have been dragged into a building, into a small room with stone walls. He rapes me. It is my stepfather.

He leaves and I go home. I have never liked him but I don’t say anything. Why don’t I say anything? [Delina cries deeply.] Because my mother loves him!

We progress to another scene in Jorge’s life as Delina.

It is nighttime. I am inside a cottage with a fire burning. I am thirty years old, living with my husband and our baby. Although I am contented I feel no passion for my husband. The rape has affected me. We argue. He wants sex and closeness and I don’t. He is a good provider and he is caring. Still, I never told him about the rape. I never told anyone.

We move on to another scenario.

Now I am thirty-five and my mother is dying. I go to her. My stepfather is already dead. I decide to tell her about the rape. She doesn’t believe me. She only thinks well of my stepfather, even though he was a hard man. I wonder why I bothered telling her. It didn’t make any difference. I feel resigned.

Delina dies alone at age sixty. She feels only a sense of relief as she passes over.

Jorge’s guide tells him that his life as Delina was designed to learn about love. As Delina he was given the opportunity to express love unconditionally.

I didn’t learn the lesson properly so I have to repeat [the experience]. I am still struggling with unconditional love in my current life. Delina had resentment towards the man who raped her. Her inability to put it aside for her husband was not love. Neither was the lack of forgiveness for her mother for not believing her.

My guide is telling me that to love unconditionally, I need to practice acceptance.

Jorge faces the same challenge in the next regression he undertakes a few weeks later. this is his visit to his life between lives. Before reaching this realm, we regress to another past life. Most often this is one’s immediate past life. This was the case for Jorge, whose past life occurred in the 1930s. He was called Nardo and he lived in a southwestern state of the USA.

Ayalga is my daughter. She is kneeling in front of me, crying. I have hit her. She is sixteen and she has been out with this boyfriend who I dislike. He is no good for her. He makes her unhappy because he is full of jealousy and anger.

It soon becomes apparent that this boyfriend is the same soul as Ayalga’s husband in her current life.

Her mother has died many years ago and I brought her up alone. She and I are very close. There are no other children. I don’t mind if she has boyfriends as long as they treat her well. She is pretty upset with me. She is heartbroken. She wants to be with this boyfriend and I won’t let her.

We progress to another scene.

It is night and I am dying. I am in hospital after having had a heart attack. My daughter is beside me. She is in her early thirties and I am nearly sixty.

We are still close and she is visibly upset. She has been devoted to me. She is going to lose the only significant person in her life. She never married. She wasn’t interested in the other boyfriends who came along because she was set on the first one. She gave him up because I demanded it.

I tell her I love her and I know she loves me. It is important that she has the chance to say goodbye. I seem to be at peace with dying.

Jorge is quiet for a few minutes before I ask him what is happening.

It’s quite bizarre. I’m finding it difficult to move on.

I spend about ten minutes helping him release his attachment to his daughter. I explain that hanging on doesn’t help his daughter, who now needs to pursue her own life. He eventually lets go.

We move onto his life between lives. After being encased by a loving light that removes any leftover emotions, his guide appears. I ask about the purpose of his life as Nardo.

It is a bit of a rest point, nothing too challenging. For some reason, there was loneliness but also companionship. I was learning about having a love relationship in a non-sexual way. Mostly I succeeded. I probably shouldn’t have interfered with my daughter’s relationship with her boyfriend. Even though we parents might think we know what is best, we need to give our children the freedom to choose. That love was not quite unconditional.

Jorge’s guide suggests we go to a place that Jorge describes as a meeting place, like a coffee shop. He recognises the other people there. It appears they will be involved in his current life as Jorge.

We are in a coffee shop discussing the things we want to work on in our coming lives. It is all very broad at the moment. My eldest brother figures prominently in our plans with the group. He is going to help us resolve some karmic issues. He will take on the role of antagonist. We formulate our own rough plan, but it has to be approved by the Lords of Karma.

At the beginning of out session, Jorge had described his eldest brother as the creator of copious grief for the family over the last twenty years. Apparently this brother tried to steal his mother’s money and cost the family millions of dollars. None of the siblings speak to this brother.

It takes a hell of a lot of work to organise a lifetime. I cannot comprehend it. It is too complex.

Ayalga appearing in this life is only an option. I interfered with her plans in the past life and that needs to be adjusted in this coming life. It is tricky to get us to meet. We move in different age groups and circles. We decide to put it in the plan but we are not sure it will happen. Decisions will have to be made and free will, of course, can alter things.

I now explore the questions that Jorge had composed for the life between lives session. These are all about his current life and his brief, intense relationship with Ayalga.

I am experiencing what I forced Ayalga to experience when I was her father. She had to shut down to the person she wanted to be with and now I have to shut down to being with her. There is some karmic thing between Ayalga and her husband. They have to work it out and it is important that they keep going until they do. They might get it sorted this lifetime. It is not that she doesn’t want to be with me or that she doesn’t love me; it is just that she has these other priorities. Being friends with me now is not possible. Her husband is the jealous type and staying friends would distract her. I succeeded in my role in her life by showing her what a loving relationship is like. That will help her with her purpose.

Jorge was satisfied with the information he had received but he still had one major problem. How does he find fulfilment now Ayalga is gone from his life?

There is room to express unconditional love to some family members and I can focus on serving others. I can rest and enjoy life instead of it being so hard. Another relationship is possible. Even though I am scared, I could open up again. There are some areas where I could do further training. For example, there is a new natural therapy that interests me.

Jorge did not receive what he had been hoping for in the sessions. He desperately wanted to be with Ayalga. He felt his life was empty without her. And he was seriously considering suicide if he could not be with her. If he knew, right at the beginning, that he would not get the assurances he craved, he might have baulked at undertaking the regression.

So he was surprised when he finally discovered that he and Ayalga were not meant to be together. Sure, he felt disappointed and sad, but he was no longer depressed and he was no longer suicidal.

The many hours Jorge and I spent together were not therapy. We did not try to solve Jorge’s problems by talking about them. Instead, he actually relived the experiences that had led to his current situation. This time, as he explored his past lives, he saw them from a larger perspective. With this broad knowledge of his lives and his purpose, he could make sense of his current life and the deep grief he’d been suffering.

He understood why he’d felt such a strong bond with Ayalga. In one life he was her daughter; in the other she was his daughter.

He also discovered, in the first session, his major life purpose. His purpose was to learn to love unconditionally. He didn’t manage to achieve this in his second past life but he was pleased to see that he had another chance in his current life.

Jorge now knew exactly why his life and his relationships had followed a particular course. He also knew that he had to let Ayalga go.

Four years later I caught up with Jorge. He hadn’t seen Ayalga for years and was still friends with his ex-wife. He now had a successful healing business, using massage and other modalities. The testimonials on his website were glowing. No doubt he possessed a caring energy and a gift for healing. He was content with his life and found great satisfaction in helping people.

Amelia

Amelia came to her life between lives session hoping to experience her soul’s wisdom and gain a better understanding of her life’s purpose.

Amelia experienced a past-life in Northern Europe over a hundred years ago. She married the man she loved and had four children. Her life was much like the life of her mother and her grandmother before her. She baked, cooked, looked after the house, and cared for her carpenter husband and their children.

At the end of her life, her children and grandchildren are by her side. Her husband has already passed and she is looking forward to seeing him again. Her body is tired and her spirit is ready to go. She knows her family will be fine. She has cared for them lovingly and although they are sad to see her leave, she knows they will be sustained by the love she has bestowed on them.

She moves upwards and is met by her guides, one a male and one a female. She feels the different energies they emanate. The male has a strong, protective energy, while the female is softer and more caring. This combination restores her, and she feels a sense of wholeness, bliss and peace.

I feel like I am floating through an energy that is soft and velvet. It is strange because I have no body but I sort of feel like I do. I have the softest feathers all around me. Down, it is like goose down, caressing me, floating all around me while I am moving through it.

Amelia arrives in a garden. She explains that this is not a garden like those on Earth. There is no sun and yet there is light everywhere. All the trees, plants and flowers glow with a special light and there are more colors than she has ever seen before.

Amelia’s guides sit with her in the garden while she reviews her past life. She discovers it was a rest life after a series of more challenging lives. The energies she took with her to Earth were mostly positive and they helped her achieve her purpose, which was all about love. She did well, as looking after and loving her family was a major part of her purpose for that past life.

Amelia wants to know about her current life’s purpose. Her guides communicate to her through thoughts, telling her to be patient, as all will be revealed soon. First, they want to take her on a journey through the spirit world. This is also something that Amelia hoped to experience.

They fly off with her, and she arrives at the top of a high cliff with the ocean far below. Suddenly she sees colored energetic lights moving towards her. The lights are oval in shape and each one is a mix of different colors, like rainbows, but each one is unique in its combination of colors. As they come closer, she realises they are beings, or souls she has known for a long time. They surround her in a circle, drawing her into their beautiful light. It is her soul group and they are welcoming her back. She feels their loving light penetrating her in an exquisitely pleasant way.

Next, her guides take her to the library. Amelia can tell it is a library because it is filled with shelves of books. As she watches, the books start shimmering like holographs. It seems that they are alive. She receives the message that knowledge is energy and energy is knowledge, but not a solid, unchanging knowledge. The message is clearly given to her that knowledge has to be lived, not just accumulated and stored. She sees how the energies join, like a network of spider’s webs, millions of them, all connected. They are all shimmering with energy.

She reaches out to touch one and a memory comes alive in her mind, and she sees the connection of this memory with other experiences she has had. She struggles to explain how profound this is for her, seeing the connections and the experiences resonating within her and influencing her future decisions. She can see how real wisdom comes from within, once one has reflected on many experiences and created the connections. She knows the information she needs at any time is available and can be accessed if she opens up to receive it.

She receives the message that trust is part of her purpose. She is to trust that any information that she needs will come. The time of studying is past. She needs to learn to trust her intuition.

Her guides now take her back to the cliff top. She recognizes people from her current life, including her mother, her brother and some friends. She is told to look deeply into each one, one after another. As she looks closely at each individual, she automatically receives information about his or her strengths and weaknesses. She also understands how she can best interact with each of them to assist them on their soul journey. Amelia realises that these interactions are mutually beneficial—working with members of her soul family will aid her progress as she advances from life to life.

Now she is taken to a beautiful building of high columns and marble. She feels waves of energy flowing through her as she enters. It is like the power of this place is resonating out to all who come within its vicinity. The feeling is one of positive power, and the waves of energy are blends of blue and red, interacting together to form different hues of lilac and purple.

She realises she is to meet her Council of Elders. There are seven beings of light in front of her. The one in the middle is the spokesperson.

She energetically receives the message that she has done well. It comes to her as a feeling of loving energy that flows into her heart. It is so strong and beautiful that tears run down her cheeks.

She is told she is part of an important mission to help the energies change on the planet. She does this by blending together the Earth energies and the higher energies when she is in physical form.

She learns she has had many lifetimes. In some she was the perpetrator of violence, and others she was the victim. Many of her lives were very dark and she chose this path to progress quickly, so she could help the Earth changes. Her experience helps her energetically relate to others. She holds the positive energy for people who are struggling with the darkness inherent in the Earth system. By holding the positive energy she helps them lift their vibration to a point where sometimes they can feel lighter and loved.

The Council members tell her how much they value and support her work. Her purpose is to love people unconditionally. Some people love their false selves, and Amelia is told to accept them as they are. She realises these people are at a stage of development where this is the best they can do. Loving one’s false self is better than not loving oneself at all.

The Council encourages her to continue her good work, and suggests she move onto another place of interest.

Amelia’s guides take her to a place where other souls are working with energy. These spiritual beings are part of her work group and they are sending out streams of positive energies, like thought energy, to the humans and animals on Earth. This helps to raise the vibration of all beings on the planet and of the Earth itself. She understands that this is the work she does when she is in spirit. It is very similar to the work she is now doing while she is incarnated. This energy work is her specialisation, and her journey through all her many lives on Earth have brought her to this point where she is powerful enough to help others.

Amelia feels very satisfied with her journey through her life between lives and with the information she received about her purpose. She thanks her guides for their loving support and renews her determination to continue on her path and fulfill her purpose to benefit the Earth and all its inhabitants.

Daniela

Daniela, aged in her late thirties, knows what she wants from her session: ‘To fit together the experiences I am having.’ She hopes to understand the trust issues that have affected her relationships.

She experiences a past life as a female, named Alina, who lives in a community in a forest. Her skin is fair and her hair light brown. She wears pointed black leather shoes with a silver buckle. She notes that her shoes are dusty. The green dress she wears has puffed sleeves with a skirt that falls to the ground.

She sees people working in the forest clearing where they live. The men have beards and are chopping wood while the women are cooking. The huts are made from straw and sticks. It is Scandinavia, a long time ago.

We all work hard to survive. My parents live there and I am alone. I am having fun and I like helping the family. I am happy.

We move to another scene in Daniela’s life as Alina.

I am outside and it is night. I am not feeling good. There are some mean people around. Very mean. They are trying to break up the whole community. They don’t like us because we love nature. They don’t understand us. We are peaceful people who love life. They don’t like that. They are afraid.

They hit me. I beg them to stop. But they don’t stop. They’re hurting us... They are killing us and throwing us into graves.

Alina leaves her body and drifts upwards.

I can see the blue sky. Something is sparkling. I see sparkles everywhere. The sparkles are souls. They are around me now and I am moving upwards.

Now I see a shadow. It changes form. It is playing games with me. It is my guide making me feel comfortable.

I am not sure where I am now. I am resting.

We pause for a while as Daniela recovers from this life. Her guide gives her information about her life as Alina.

The men who came and killed us were naïve people. I am being told there is darkness as well as light. There are dark places and dark people. Lessons can be learnt from interacting with dark people.

These people who killed us will be shown their own lessons in time. That experience of killing will help them. They will have dark times in their lives and will learn compassion and understanding through these experiences.

They are cruel people. One is my grandfather in my current life. I am helping my grandfather.

I chose this life as Alina and I knew what would happen. I was okay with that. It was a useful life. I learned a lot. I learned that we are one with nature. We are one with all living things, good and bad. Even the cruel people, we are one with them too. I also learnt the benefits of being together in a community and learning to appreciate each other.

This life was a positive experience in spite of the violent end. My guide said I stood by what I believed in and never gave up. He is pleased and I feel peaceful.

Daniela is given more information about her life’s purpose later from the Council of Elders.

The lives of Daniela and Alina are similar. My purpose, then and now, is to speak my truth. I am not to sacrifice what I know the truth to be by giving in and remaining silent against powerful people.

As Daniela, I have been the kind of person who wants to help by changing people. I cannot force change upon others. My purpose is to let them be and speak my own truth. Other people will watch and learn. If some don’t like it, they are not ready.

My mother has a lot to learn. I am here to help her this lifetime. I need to say to her ‘life is beautiful’ and she will learn through my example of loving life.

I am to keep living my truth. When I feel connected to everything, animals and peoples, that is my truth. If I quieten my mind, I can connect. And I can do that all the time. It is about being loving and accepting but being honest as well.

My anxiety has come from the burden of disbelief. It will go if I just trust in life. The ego gives me false messages. A false message is dark, negative self-doubt. Let fears go.

I have no past issues to be concerned about. I am to just follow these instructions.

All the dark people play a role, not good or bad, it just is. Some people learn their lessons through pain. I don’t need to have pain anymore if I just trust what happens and flow along with life freely.

If I think of the word release, I can access the feeling of peace and tranquility.

I am being told: ‘You are to feel loved because you are loved.’

After the session, Daniela said, ‘It was incredible...such a release. I felt it inside, outside, all around. It was truly an experience and more than I expected.’

Daniela’s purpose reminded me of another case where the client was told that her purpose was to speak her truth. She was also encouraged to live her truth. The Council told her it is about saying yes when everyone else is saying no.

When I hear these words I see, in my mind’s eye, a poster I have encountered with one fish, a little different to the others, swimming in the opposite direction.

This message, of speaking and living our truth in the face of opposition from others, is one that is frequently given to people in their life between lives. Of course, before we can live our truth we have to know what that is. As Daniela’s Council mentioned, the ego and our fears can hijack us and throw us off-track.

Conclusion

From the cases outlined here, it seems we plan our lives and set goals that we hope to achieve. Although this is generally true of the people who come to visit their life between lives, it does not mean everyone on the planet plans their life.

I have heard some spiritual gurus suggest that souls are all different and at different stages of awareness. Some souls might plan their next incarnation in detail, some might do no planning at all, and others lie somewhere in between these two extremes. The analogy of high school graduates illustrates the point. Some graduates know what they want to do from a young age and plan the steps needed to fulfil their goals. Some plan loosely. Others do no planning at all and wait for opportunities to arise.

However it works, many people sense they do have a purpose, especially people who decide to undertake a spiritual regression. And I have noticed that people with no sense of purpose usually feel lost.

People who visit their life between lives find the experience greatly rewarding. One major satisfaction is gaining clarification on the nature of their life’s purpose.

Capítulo 8. Sanar.

CAPÍTULO 8. SANAR

Healing

Every human being is the author of his own health or disease.  SWAMI SIVANANDA SARAWATI

Although I am specifically focusing on clients with health issues in this chapter, nearly all clients experience some aspect of healing. Even people who undertake a regression out of curiosity can reap the healing benefits of their experience. Paula, who you met in an earlier chapter, received confirmation that she was on track with her life. Although such a change is subtle, she was healed of any doubts about her direction, enabling her to approach her life with renewed vigor.

Some people, however, do suffer from pain or serious health issues. Usually they want to know why they have these health issues, and what they can do to reduce their suffering.

Here are some cases of people who were facing a range of health challenges. I have also included more general information and suggestions that the Council of Elders have given to people with health issues.

Mauricio

Mauricio is only in his thirties but he has already experienced a rare cancer. He had undergone several rounds of chemotherapy and the cancer had gone into remission. However his doctor was still concerned, and Mauricio was about to have more tests. His doctor had flagged the possibility he might need another round of chemotherapy. Mauricio was not sure if that would be wise.

For his current life, Mauricio had chosen a sensitive body that was prone to illness. In the chapter, Body Selection, you will discover the reasons behind his choice.

During his session, Mauricio asked the Council of Elders for advice on how to manage his body. He was told he had two choices. He could remain incarnate, or he could leave. The Council advised him of the steps he needed to take if he wished to heal.

Be careful with toxins and make sure you detox regularly. You need to detox emotionally, spiritually and physically. This means keeping the energy flowing. Beware of emotional and energy blockages.

Your body is sensitive to illness and also sensitive to healing. You can heal yourself. You need to meditate and tap into a higher consciousness. If things haven’t gone too far, the body can be healed.

All healing is possible but if the body has been damaged [such as cartilage destroyed in a joint] then you need a stronger intent. You need to believe in your healing one hundred percent. You have to have no doubts.

Meditate, visualise, feel the healing, feel healed, bring the healing into being. Whether you use medicine to reduce the pain or not, the main thing is to not get into the fear.

Those who act healthy and feel healthy are healthy.

When the Council referred to toxins, they were not just talking about unhealthy food or poisons (such as chemotherapy) taken into the body. The Council was also referring to toxic people. Around the time that Mauricio had developed the cancer, he had experienced a year of conflict. This conflict occurred within his extended family when a relative embarked on a path of fraud and deception. Some members of the family were taken in by this man, while others were not. The conflict split the family apart. Mauricio and his wife had recently emigrated to get away from all the tension.

Xelu

Xelu is in his sixties. He is a health professional who has helped many people. Sheer curiosity led him to seek out a regression. He mentioned that he was on dialysis for kidney failure. He was generally very accepting of this physical challenge, saying he had found ways to get on with his life in spite of the illness. He was not seeking a cure but he wondered why he had fallen ill. During the session, he was given his answer.

I chose my kidney failure. I get the feeling I had to clear out all the shit I was carrying. I had cruel parents. Even though, through their cruelty and pain, I learned about love. The kidney failure has made me more patient and tolerant. I have to go on dialysis every few days and sit for hours. It is an interesting disease. You know you are terminal, but not yet. I am being told that feeling unwell will come and go. My journey is to experience many possibilities. It is just another experience. The most important thing is to enjoy the journey. I will not let [my illness] bother me.

At a soul level, Xelu chose his illness because it presented a challenge. It seems that many souls choose such challenges. What he learned during his session confirmed this for Xelu and helped him make peace with his illness.

Elisa

Elisa was very depressed and sometimes indulged in self-harming behavior. She wondered what she needed to do to change her unhappiness.

Early in our discussion before the regression, I noticed the rigidity of her views. During the session, her rigidity turned to resistance. She kept saying she thought she was making it all up. Somehow, this notion filled her with fear—a fear that knowing she was making it up would only deepen her depression. But as we proceeded further into the trance, she was given information to help her change.

I create my reality. I know that is true. I have to give up my limiting beliefs to be able to create a better reality. I am very negative. I don’t think I am good enough. This is coming from my thought patterns. My father’s treatment of me is part of it. My father was a blamer. His father was a blamer. My mother’s family was full of blamers. This victim attitude has come down the ancestral line.

One part of me wants to change and another part doesn’t. The resistant part wants to stay as it is because it feels familiar. I can feel it in my body. My neck is tense and painful.

I am being told to open up, make space, expand and allow the feelings to be in my body.

Elisa started crying quietly and continued to cry for some time as she worked through those generations of blame and grief.

I can see that sad little me that I was. I can feel her sadness... I am giving it space... Now I am holding her hand. I feel at peace with this reconnection.

I am being told I am to be much more gentle with myself. I need to be less negative. I can do this by accepting the negativity and giving it space. I am to do what I sense is right for me and not to worry about what anyone else thinks.

Elisa felt greatly drained after this session, but she was on her way to increased self-acceptance and reduced negativity. She could heal her depression and self-harming behavior if she continued to practise what she had been given.

Xabel

Xabel was extremely overweight and suffered a number of other illnesses due to this. His doctors pointed to his weight as the main problem. He wanted to know why he struggled so much with food and what he could do about it.

One of his past lives is described in the chapter, Do Our Past Lives Affect This Life? In that life he lived as a noble, using food as a weapon to control his peasants. He hated the injustice of some people having more than others, even though he was born into wealth.

He experienced a previous life in a Nordic country around 800 A.D. where food again was an issue.

In this Nordic life, he was a woman who struggled to find enough to eat. She built up a lot of anger over the injustice of a few having so much and the peasants having so little. She and her husband intended to steal from a wealthy man. However, their intended victim failed to arrive at their carefully-chosen place of ambush, and so their plan was aborted. She never tried to steal again, even though starving remained a threat throughout this life. She had children and sometimes she went hungry in order to feed them.

In another past life, Xabel was an intelligent man who rose to great power. He governed a large area of a third world country and did as much as he could to support the masses. But he died disillusioned. He felt he could have done more even though the people were grateful for what he did.

The theme of injustice for the poor and underprivileged ran through all of these lives. In his current life, Xabel still harbours a strong sense of injustice. He is certainly not privileged in this life as he struggles financially, mainly due to limited work opportunities and his poor health.

During the session, Xabel remembered a time when he was six years old and attending a birthday party for one of his friends. Even though he was only six, he had been putting on weight. He had recently started cutting back on fattening food. At this party, he refused to eat chocolate, lollies or ice-cream and was quite at peace with his choice. He overheard one of the mothers commenting positively on his ability to be so strong and determined. This was a powerful memory. The Council of Elders referred to this memory when advising him how to heal his relationship with food.

The Council said that fundamentally his problem lies in his tendency to see food as offering something other than sustenance. Xabel also uses food to fill his deeper emotional needs, such as the need for punishment, rebellion, comfort and so forth.

He is told that healing is difficult because there are many subtleties involved from many past lives. However, the Council tells Xabel that if he wishes to heal, he needs to use food purely for sustenance—even though he is not fully aligned with that idea yet. This is an area where he needs to continue to challenge himself.

His body is very confused. His appetite is distorted and his stomach doesn’t know when it is full. He doesn’t know what he really needs to eat. Over time, however, as he eats healthily his body will learn these positive new habits, and the old symbolic connections will disappear. There are many resources available that will help him know what to eat and what not to eat. It may challenge him but it is the correct way to proceed.

Cecilia

Cecilia has a brain tumor that is being treated with radiation and chemotherapy. She wants to know why the tumor formed, and how she can help heal it.

When she regresses to her past life, Cecilia discovers she was married to a physically abusive alcoholic. She has carried over hurt and anger from this life. In her present life, her alcoholic father neglected her, paying more attention to his sons than his daughter. Then her husband left her a couple of years before she was diagnosed with the tumor. This compounded the trauma.

Cecilia takes this knowledge into her life between lives. She encounters some wise beings, who explain that tumors represent ‘an accumulation of dense energies’, including the hurt and trauma experienced over many lifetimes.

Cecilia connects with her grief, crying deeply for several minutes. She forgives her father for his neglect, realising he didn’t know how to interact with a daughter. He was rough with the boys but kept his distance from her, because he didn’t want to injure her.

The wise beings explain that illness is useful, because anything the body does is useful. It is a feedback mechanism that tells us what is going on in our psyche. Tumors represent an opportunity to evolve, ‘a gift of lifetimes,’ they say. I ask what is meant by ‘a gift of lifetimes’ and the wise beings reply:

Tumors accumulate from lifetimes of experience. When they manifest in your life, you are given the opportunity to understand the path you have taken. Then you can heal the trauma and let it go.

With any illness, you need to identify the space and time when the trauma was locked in the body. Sit with the ill part of the body focus on it, talk with it and listen so you can understand what it says. Then to help heal illness, visualise it, sense its essence and make peace with it, while at the same time being non-judgmental and accepting.

Fighting the illness, fighting anything that the body creates, is not useful.

Efrén

Efrén is disabled. When he was young, he had an accident that left him a paraplegic. Before this happened, he was an athlete and into extreme sports.

After his accident, Efrén didn't grieve his loss, not for long anyway. He distracted himself from grief and loss by focusing on what he could achieve, rather than on his disability. As he felt comfortable playing sport, he became a wheelchair basketball player, and worked his body hard. Everyone admired his strength of character.

His new focus served him well until he had another accident, this time during a game. The doctors thought he might end up a quadriplegic. He didn't, but while this remained a possibility, Efrén lay in bed thinking. He wondered why the accidents had happened to him. Being told it was ‘God’s will’ didn’t satisfy him. The question became an obsession, and he started looking for answers. Eventually, he heard about life between lives regression.

During the session, he discovers his disability was part of the plan for his current life. He is in the process of developing balance between the physical and non-physical. Some people over-identify with their body, ignoring their spiritual connection. Others focus on the spiritual realms, resisting their physical nature and the realities of our physical world. At an advanced stage of development, souls set out to balance these two contrasting attractions.

Efrén is told he needs to spend time meditating, focusing on his inner world, as well as staying fit and playing sport. This will allow him to find the balance he seeks.

The wise beings explain that many disabilities are planned before we are born, to help the individual grow in some way. For example, being born visually impaired bestows opportunities not available to sighted people. By looking within, blind people can develop their intuition. Their listening skills and their feeling sense are also greatly enhanced.

Marcos

Marcos came to see me because he was feeling emotionally attacked by his ex-wife, complaining that she has never supported him or the children. He is very successful in his career and his new marriage is happy, but his ex-wife is jealous. In her bitterness, she told lies to their teenage children and turned them against him.

He struggled with a major setback in his career at the same time his children became spiteful towards him. Then, his mother was diagnosed with a terminal illness. Marcos always endeavours to be positive but he was finding it difficult to maintain the act. Underneath he was feeling a tremendous amount of stress. He was self-doubting and negative. Soon after all the stress, he began losing his hearing.

In his life between lives, he is told his negativity caused his hearing problems.

Your negative self-talk and high expectations of yourself are the reasons you lost your hearing. You didn’t want to hear the negativity anymore. If you want to stay healthy, you must stop the negative self-talk and continue meditating. You are burning off a lot of karma by your daily meditation. Keep doing that and your health will improve and stay improved.

Marcos received other useful advice about reconnecting with his children and letting go of his anger at his ex-wife. He left confident that his health would improve, and feeling more at peace with his situation.

Conclusion

Healing appears to be automatic when we are in the realm of our life between lives. As soon as we arrive, we are taken to a center where all heaviness and pain is released. One soul, in his life between lives, was clearly given this message.

When you visit this sacred place, you are cleared of all negativity. You cannot be in this scared place with negativity. Here there is clarity and purity. You choose what you take back to Earth with you. You return cleansed and pure and you need to remain vigilant so you continue to instill clarity and purity into your thoughts and body.

Unfortunately, when we return to Earth after being in our life between lives, some of us pick up our old patterns. Perhaps it takes a very strong soul to permanently wash away the old destructive negativity that we seem to hold in our bodies.

The next time I spoke with Mauricio about his struggle with cancer, he told me that he felt fine. Eventually though, his doctor persuaded him that another round of chemotherapy would be useful to keep the cancer under control. Mauricio had acquiesced. Although I recalled his guides suggesting he be wary of toxins, I said nothing and wished him the best. A few years later, his wife contacted me. Mauricio had passed.

Some of the clients in this chapter were able to instill their new learnings into their physical bodies. Elisa, for example, continued to work with the information she was given in her session. Her health, her relationships and her life improved and she described herself as happy.

Spirit guides tell us healing is possible. We need to change our mindset from pain to comfort, from fear to trust, and from negativity to positivity. Specifically, they said, ‘Those who act healthy and feel healthy, are healthy.’

I decided to implement this advice to address my own health problem. My right hip was so damaged that a specialist said I needed a hip replacement. I had been in pain with this hip for years and I was now only walking when I had to. It had worsened over the last two years and I even used a wheelchair for long distances when I was overseas. I realised that as I walked, I focused on the pain. This is understandable, given that pain seems to cry out for attention. I gave it attention—negative attention.

When I decided to take the guides’ advice, I focused attention on my pain-free left hip, enjoying the freedom of movement in that leg as I walked. Then I imagined my right hip feeling that same freedom. To help, I also mentally repeated the words, ‘strength and comfort’ as I walked.

Whenever I did this, I noticed that the pain in my right hip and leg reduced significantly. Often, I walked without pain. Sometimes I would forget, feel some pain, and fall into my old habit of tightening up against the discomfort.

I managed sufficiently for another three years after the surgeon said I should have my hip replaced. During that time, there were two major improvements in hip surgery that helped make my new hip durable, my operation successful, and my recovery swift.

Capítulo 7. Emociones

 CAPÍTULO 7. ECOS EMOCIONALES

Vea la película de PIXAR sobre las emociones siguiendo este enlace:

Al margen del tema, o no, es interesante en la imagen de la película de PIXAR que las emociones tengan cara. Sí, tenemos caras femeninas para el asco, la felicidad y la tristeza, y masculina (cómo no) para la ira y también para el miedo. En español las emociones solo tienen género GRAMATICAL masculino o femenino (no  tienen genero neutro como ocurre en lengua asturiana y algunas otras lenguas romances) y es necesario señalar que son cosas diferentes el género GRAMATICAL y el género SEXUAL. Las lengua son sexualmente neutras (nunca me encontré con una palabra con pene o vagina, pero nunca se sabe... :) pero no lo son los cerebros de algunos humanos que se empeñan en sexualizar todo, incluso el lenguaje, aunque esta sexualización no es inocente ya que detrás de eso hay un movimiento político de tinte totalitario y avasallador. Que cada uno ponga nombre a ese movimiento.

En idioma inglés, parece razonable que sea una hembra humana la que encarne el asco, la felicidad y la tristeza, mientras que es aceptable que el macho de la especie, (violento según las totalitarias sexualizantes), sea la encarnación de la ira y, para compensar el exceso de testosterona, también el miedo. Está claro que si no hay problemas suficientes, nos inventamos más..... 

Capítulo 6. Entendiendo las Relaciones

Understanding Relationships

There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved. GEORGE SAND, NOVELIST

One of the most difficult challenges we face in our physical lives is navigating our relationships with others. Accessing our past lives and life between lives can shed light on our current relationships by providing us with information about our behavior over many lifetimes.

As we go through life, we develop different strategies for interacting with other people. Some of these strategies serve us well; others may be destructive. Without realising it, we may act out these negative strategies in our intimate relationships. If we keep repeating these strategies, they become a habit, or pattern. Once we become aware of these negative patterns we want to change them. But change can be difficult when the origins of these patterns lie deeply buried in our soul memory.

A regression can illuminate our personal history, and give us a better understanding of our most challenging relationships.

The following case studies show how the insights gained during a session can help us address problems in our current relationships. In addition, some of these case studies show how reliving the past can help us release unwanted, negative emotions.

Lola

Lola realised that she was attracted to needy, pushy people. She came to her session hoping to understand the genesis of this pattern, and why it kept playing out in her life, with predictable results.

In her relationships, she would do everything she could to keep her partners happy. It never worked. No matter how much she gave it wasn’t enough, and her relationships always ended badly. Lola was keen to change this dysfunctional dynamic.

While Lola was in the trance, I asked that she be given the answers she needed. She was guided to the house she lived in when she was seven years old.

Lola is in the lounge room, dancing around in front of her parents and brothers. She’s the fairy princess. As she pirouettes she senses the energy of her aunt, who can be a nasty, pushy woman. The aunt had recently visited the family and had managed, as usual, to greatly upset Lola’s mother. Lola’s mother and the aunt are sisters. The aunt has always been extremely jealous of Lola’s mother, believing her to be more attractive and more popular.

While Lola is dancing, she senses a dark presence behind her. She dares not turn around. Instead, she focuses on the sunlight pouring through the doors and windows. She wants to stay facing the light because it brings her happiness.

I check to make sure that she feels safe and strong. Lola nods. Then, I encourage her to turn around to face that dark energy. She wants her question answered and the answer is there but she has to be brave enough to see it.

She senses a monster behind her. When questioned, she describes it as ghostly and wispy grey, with gnashing teeth.

Eventually she summons up the courage to turn around and face that monster.

When she shifts her attention, Lola sees two older females in the hallway behind her. The hallway is a dark tunnel, and the two women are filled with a sullen desperation. Lola describes them as grinding their teeth and clawing at the walls. Their arms are spread out in wild disarray. Lola stands rooted to the floor, staring, as they advance slowly towards her. She senses the terror that underpins their longing.

She becomes aware that these two women are her grandmothers. They are begging for her forgiveness.

Her paternal grandmother is easy to forgive.

This grandmother died before Lola was born. Lola’s father loved his mother and always spoke kindly of her. The grandmother seems to pick up Lola’s feelings of compassion because she gradually changes colour, from grey through blue, mauve, pink to peach. She slowly fades away and Lola senses that she is now at peace.

Her maternal grandmother is in much more turmoil. She would find it difficult to accept forgiveness, even if it was offered. Although Lola would like to forgive her grandmother, she does not feel forgiving. She has some compelling reasons for her reluctance.

Lola has always sensed a coldness in her mother and her maternal grandmother. She never felt loved by her mother, and she knows her mother never felt love from this grandmother. Lola needs to understand why they were both so emotionally distant.

Suddenly, Lola finds herself in her maternal grandmother’s house. She sees her grandmother as a younger woman, desperately scrubbing clothes on an old scrubbing board. Lola intuitively knows her mother was a child at this time.

Her grandmother’s hands are red and raw. She is washing the clothes of her husband and eight children. She has to get it all done. She is a devout Christian and she must make sure everyone is dressed in clean, neat clothes so they can go to church.

Her entire focus is on pleasing her husband. The Bible says this is her duty. The family goes to mass every morning before they go to school or work. They are all perfectly groomed so others will admire them, and her husband will feel proud of his family.

Every evening they all sit down at the dining table. Lola’s grandmother has prepared the dinner, making sure everything is perfect. After dinner the males sit around and talk while the females clear and wash up. The work for Lola’s grandmother is never ending.

Lola sees that her grandmother is emotionally shut down. Her grandmother feels safe focusing on external appearances. She never stops to notice her feelings or those of her children. Her whole identity is caught up in pleasing her husband and impressing the other churchgoers.

Lola’s mother and the other children, including the nasty aunt, grow up feeling unloved. They all shut down emotionally to varying degrees.

Now that Lola understands, she feels compassion for her grandmother. She opens her arms and hugs her closely, offering deep love and forgiveness. The grandmother sobs. Lola feels her grandmother’s pain and cries too, until all their grief is released.

Lola now sees images from her current life. Everything falls into place. She realises that she spent her childhood turning away from any negativity. Instead, she focused on being as happy and as light as possible. Being positive was her survival strategy. She needed to feel safe, even though she lived with a mother who was clearly disturbed and unable to give her the love she needed.

Lola carried this strategy into adulthood. As a child, she turned a blind eye to her mother’s faults. As an adult, she overlooked the faults of her partners. As a child, she took full responsibility for making her mother happy. Later in life, she believed she had to make her partners happy.

As a result, Lola remained in relationships with pushy and needy people, long after an emotionally healthy person would have left. But pushy and needy people felt familiar to Lola. Her relationships always ended badly because the people she chose as partners were always fundamentally unhappy.

The compulsive desire to keep one’s husband or partner happy was an emotional need that had been passed down her maternal line. At this point in her life, Lola had a young daughter. She was pleased to know she was not going to pass this problem onto her daughter.

Now that Lola understood the genesis of her behavior, she was determined to change. She soon left her abusive partner and started valuing herself. She put healthy boundaries in place so any future partner would treat her and her daughter respectfully.

Pedro

Pedro’s wife encouraged him to undertake a life between lives regression. She’d found her session beneficial, so Pedro decided to give it a go, despite his skepticism.

During the regression, his guide took him back in time to a poignant experience in his current life. He found himself at his mother’s deathbed. He said he remembered seeing hatred in her eyes.

After making this statement, Pedro went silent. I sensed he was receiving some important information. Eventually he spoke.

I am being told that what I saw in her eyes that day was not hate. She saw me coming into the room and she wanted to sit up to greet me. The look in her eyes was pain. She felt a lot of pain while making the effort to sit up. She wanted me to have a good memory of her. She was trying to look after me. She loved me.

I saw what I wanted to see. I felt a lot of guilt. I hadn’t visited her much. I was busy and travelled a lot. Even when she was dying, I didn’t stay long. I thought she was angry at me for not spending time with her. But it wasn’t her. It was all me.

Pedro had tears running down his cheeks. He was relieved his mother loved him and that he no longer had to carry his heavy burden of guilt. He said he was now at peace.

Pedro was genuinely surprised that the regression enabled him to let go of this sad episode in his life.

During regressions, many people are given the opportunity to release emotion from old, unresolved wounds, whether they were inflicted in their current life or in a past life.

Adriana

Adriana wanted to undertake a past life regression because she was caught in an emotional triangle with two other women. Tall and confident, Adriana worked as a social worker, so caring for others came easily to her. She explained how normally she was positive and happy, but this emotional dilemma was bringing her down.

Adriana was deeply committed to her female partner, Erin. Erin had her own successful business and travelled frequently. Adriana and Erin had been together for a decade and were now married.

Two years ago, a new employee, Casandra, started working in Adriana’s workplace. Adriana felt immediately drawn to Casandra and they quickly became good friends.

Although she was very competent in her job, Casandra was sometimes nervous and very talkative. Adriana didn’t mind. When Erin was travelling interstate, Adriana was delighted to have Casandra’s company to go to the theatre, the shops or to chat over coffee.

Right from the beginning, Adriana felt connected to Casandra at a soul level. She felt so comfortable with Casandra, and talked so much about Casandra, that Erin eventually became concerned about the nature of the relationship.

Adriana insisted she was not attracted to Casandra in any sexual way. She only wanted a close, platonic friendship. But it was evident to both Adriana and Erin that Casandra harboured a strong sexual attraction to Adriana.

In their daily life, Erin was making a lot of noise about Adriana’s relationship with Casandra, not understanding why she just didn’t give Casandra up. The arguments were starting to affect their marriage. Adriana wanted to please her life partner but felt an overwhelming sense of grief at the thought of not seeing Casandra again.

Eventually, she agreed to give up her friendship with Casandra but it didn’t last. Adriana received a birthday card from Casandra. Gradually Adriana and Casandra started phoning and texting. Adriana wanted to see Casandra again but before meeting her, she decided she should be honest with Erin.

Erin was devastated. She told Adriana she loved her enough to let her go to be with Casandra if that is what she really wanted. Adriana never wanted to lose her marriage to Erin but she didn’t want to lose Casandra either. She was caught again, right in the middle, feeling that she was being pulled apart.

Adriana sensed that the drama she was playing out with Casandra was karmic. She hoped a past life regression would throw some light on the situation.

The regression took Adriana back to her life as Isa, a young woman who lived in an English town in the 1890s.

I am living with my husband and younger sister in the poorest part of town. The dwellings are small and cold and butted up against each other. The building seems to be set near a cliff and there are many steep steps in the back yard.

Many children in the town are ill. Some die. I am scared for my sister. She is young and frail. She is like a daughter to me. I don’t want her to become ill. I am so anxious, I am frantically cleaning the house. I am also obsessively looking after my sister’s wellbeing. I am preparing special food for her. I am making sure she is dressed warmly. I am not allowing her to go out into the cold and rain. I will do anything to prevent her getting ill.

In spite of all Isa’s efforts, her sister soon begins to ill.

She has developed a fever. Now she is coughing. I am sick with worry. I am doing everything I can to help her. I am coaxing her to drink water and giving her food that she doesn’t want to eat. Now I am sitting beside her. She is in bed and she looks so weak and pale. I pray she won’t be taken, but I can see she is slipping away.

Adriana cries.

She is dead. There is nothing I can do. I can’t believe it. I am so sad. She was so young. She didn’t deserve to die. I miss her so much. My husband is trying to help me but I find no solace in his efforts. I am always crying.

The years pass and I am still crying. I just cannot get over the loss of my dear sister. My husband cannot understand. I am inconsolable.

Isa died at age forty. She was glad to go. It was a life of so much sadness.

I see my sister. The first thing she says is ‘It’s not your fault.’ Everything is all beautiful and white. Now I see my husband passing over and he is sorry for not understanding.

Isa drifts towards the light. Her guide appears, and explains the purpose of Isa’s life.

There was a plan. Isa’s life was about grief, learning to deal with grief. The death of her young sister was the obstacle that Isa was supposed to overcome. She failed. She never got over the loss of her sister.

The guide is telling me that the grief has to be resolved. I am here with you now, sitting in this chair, experiencing all this so I can resolve it.

Isa’s sister is the same soul as Casandra, and Isa’s husband is the same soul as Erin.

The guide is telling me that there is something I need to do. If I want to progress in my current life, I have to do this. It will resolve what was unfinished in Isa’s life. I need to let Casandra go.

Adriana cries deeply for several minutes. Grief is not easy for her. She’d told me earlier how deeply upset she had been when her grandparents died some years ago. Suddenly she feels her grandparents near her.

They are hugging me and telling me how much they love me. I feel so much love from them. It seems like they are really here.

I silently give Adriana time to cry. I know she is feeling the intense feelings of joy, light and love that come from above.

As her grief subsides, Adriana says she can now understand why Casandra’s arrival into her life had created so much turmoil. She now knows for sure that she and Casandra are soul-related. And she knows that she will see Casandra again at the end of her life.

Adriana is also clear that she is meant to be with Erin. In this current life, they are a married couple again. They have an opportunity to experience the love and intimacy they had missed out on in Isa’s life.

Adriana felt peaceful but drained when she came out of the trance. She knew exactly what she was going to do.

Erin will not be home until later. I have an opportunity and I am going to take it. I will visit Casandra on my way home, hug her and say goodbye. The karma from Isa’s life is finished.

Adriana’s intuition was correct. There were important soul relationships in play in her current life as well as unresolved issues from a past life. Once Adriana had freed herself from the past life grief and understood her purpose this life, she was easily able to implement the changes needed to get her life back on track.

Llarina

Llarina, aged forty-one, sought a past life regression to gain more clarity about her current life. She specifically wanted to understand her relationship with Enol, a fifty-four-year-old divorcé with whom she was living. Although Llarina loved Enol, at times he could be nasty and abusive. He was easily offended, and responded viciously when triggered. His previous wife had been unfaithful and had cheated him out of money, so he was not very trusting.

Llarina regresses easily to her past life as a woman aged twenty, named Mara. Her bare feet are covered with a dark blue robe. This robe completely covers her from head to toe with just a slit near her eyes so she can see. She is alone inside a house with open windows. Looking out a window, she sees nothing but sand and desert. She notes that the climate is very hot and dry. She can see other houses and feels she belongs to some sort of community. The houses are made out of an earthy material and all look the same.

Although she lives in this house and feels at home, Mara knows it is not her house. She takes care of it and the man who lives there. He is Ajmad, aged forty. Although they have a sexual relationship, they are not married.

Mara does everything she can for Ajmad because she owes him.

From the age of three through to sixteen she lived with relatives who disrespected and mistreated her. Mara is light-skinned while her relatives are darker. They make it clear that they deeply dislike her and her light-skinned mother. She doesn’t know why her mother left when she was three, and has been waiting many years for her to return.

Ajmad is a business associate of her relatives. He visited their home many times over the years and saw the way Mara was treated. Although Ajmad is a hard man, he didn’t like the way the males in the household looked at Mara as she grew older.

When she is sixteen, he tells her the truth that her relatives have been keeping from her. Her mother is dead. She died when Mara was three. Mara grieves deeply for her dead mother. Ah-mad offers to buy her off her relatives and take her with him. She cannot forgive her relatives for playing with her emotions so cruelly, and willingly leaves.

Mara’s life is better with Ajmad. She has more freedom and can walk to the market to buy food. She gradually grows to love him.

We move to a time when she is in her mid-thirties. Ajmad is sick and she is taking care of him. He cannot do anything anymore. Although he is mean sometimes, she puts up with that because she feels she owes him a debt for rescuing her. He dies. Time passes.

I am in the same house and on my own. People don’t have anything to do with me but I don’t mind. I have everything I need. I can read. He taught me to read. He taught me everything and I am grateful. I am always by myself but people are beginning to get a certain amount of respect for me. Although they don’t have anything to do with me, they no longer walk away.

We move to the end of Llarina’s life as this desert woman, Mara.

I am very old, in my nineties. I missed him a lot. I didn’t like living so long. I am not diseased or sick, just old and tired.

She passes in her sleep. As she becomes her eternal soul-self, Llarina realises that Ajmad in that desert life is the same soul as Enol in her current life. She also sees that her mother in her current life shares the same soul as the mean adoptive mother in the desert life. Her mother in her current life is not a happy person.

With the help of her guide, Llarina assesses the past life and looks at parallels with her current life.

She notes that as a child in that past life as Mara, she endured some terrible experiences in the hands of her relatives.

When Ajmad offered to help her, she seized the moment. This is an important lesson for her current life.

I have taken an opportunity for a better life in being with Enol. I am supposed to look at my life in a more positive way.

Enol tries to help but I don’t see it as help. I don’t feel that I owe him, and because of that I don’t allow myself to open to what he offers. Just because he is a hard man doesn’t mean he doesn’t care. He is hard because he thinks he needs to be. He is only protecting himself.

I don’t need to feel I am less than anyone else. I have a vast potential within me that is still untapped. I need to trust, open up and let my abilities unfold.

I need to learn that I will be let down at times. There will always be disappointments as this is a part of life. It is not personal. There are ups and downs. If I close myself off so that nothing bad ever happens to me, I shall never get to experience life as I am meant to. I am being told I will always get through.

My guide is saying that I need to say positive things to myself everyday. I can be envious and jealous and I need to work on that. I need to say good things about myself out loud. I have no need for envy and jealousy and I will overcome them if I do what my guide suggests. I have a lot of inner strength.

From her session, Llarina realises that she can persevere with the relationship with Enol. They both are closed to some degree, as they were in their past life together. In that life, Mara felt inferior to Ajmad, and some of those feelings of inferiority have carried over into Llarina’s current life. She has few financial resources while Enol is a very wealthy man. The power imbalance that prevailed during her past life is playing out again in her current life.

After Ajmad died, Mara spent many years alone, and built a lot of independence. This tells Llarina that she could walk away from Enol if the worst came to the worst, even though she would struggle financially. But walking away from Enol could mean remaining closed. Being in a relationship forces her to open up.

The same is true for Enol, who pulls away to protect himself. By staying with him and deciding to be more accepting and open, Llarina can give Enol an opportunity to gradually rebuild his trust. The relationship presents a chance for each of them to progress along their spiritual path by learning to be tolerant, generous, and accepting of each other.

Conclusion

Exploring your relationships with those you love by visiting your past lives and life between lives is an exciting exercise. You discover the nature of your soul relationship with your loved ones, and whether you have incarnated with them before. You also discover that some of the issues causing trouble between you and the significant people in your life have arisen in previous incarnations. With increased understanding and strong determination, you are given an opportunity to resolve these issues.

The cases discussed in this chapter exemplify the emotional connections that can flow from one life to another or, as in the case of Lola, down the ancestral line. Some souls may invest many lifetimes in the same relationship, struggling to make it work. Others may draw powerful lessons from past relationships, whether they succeeded or failed. All our relationships can play out in myriad different ways. Everyone on the planet is unique and every relationship we have with others will reflect our individuality.

Creating relationships in which we respect ourselves and each other is not easy. Most people struggle to get this balance right. A regression can help when there are misunderstandings between people, and a need for more information. Knowing the past life history playing out in our relationships can give us the power and inspiration we need to take appropriate action— whether that action is to accept our life as it is, or to make radical changes.